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  • The Dating App Predicament

    Dating is not for the weak. Even if you are on the apps or met organically, I feel like in 2025, dating is for the resilient.

    The amount of times I have downloaded and re-downloaded the apps in the hope of finding my true love, is getting ridiculous, I’ve finally decided to try the organic way as the apps make me feel downtrodden and just drained after using them.

    I have even called one of my male friend’s ‘cute’ in the hope that he likes me back, but even he has left me like Casper (the not so friendly ghost) in this situation and I still have hope that he might even respond with a little I don’t like you back message, which at this point I don’t even care.

    My app experience has not always been downcast, but this weekend and the week beforehand made me believe that an actual man on an app may not be the answer or relationship I need. It also made me realise how many men are not on there for reliable reasons. Fair do’s I know couples who have met and sustained a relationship via an app, but no matter how hard I try, the men always leave without so much as saying a goodbye; and whenever I do question it, they tend to leave me on read. RUDE.

    I love how men in general make women think they’re special, however it’s only a game, and they may say the exact same thing to the 20 other girls on their roster. Sorry for being cynical but I think there’s an element of truth to this and as a person who has frequently used dating apps, I have learnt some things, which still to this day make me hopeful that one day I might open the app, spark up a conversation with a man and it turns into a relationship. However, today and the few days before were not those days.

    So, while I’m not on the apps as of now, it is the only time I get to throughly see the men who want a relationship, as I don’t get the opportunity when I’m not on the apps. I neither met someone at University or am currently at work, so meeting a man in this climate is hard enough especially when you’re an introverted girlie like me.

    This is why I tried to get with someone who I thought was a friend as I always imagined this for myself, by alas this was not to be a good idea. As Taylor Swift sings ‘Ruin the Friendship’ yet having experienced that multiple times, I say NO!!!

    So should I go back to dating apps? Many people I have talked to have said no as they count them as rubbish and the fact that I can’t even get a date just shows how rubbish they actually are.

    The hope I once had when using the apps has slowly deteriorated, and this weekend has made it worse. So no, the apps are not worth another download. I’m going to try the organic way, and if I hear one person say it’ll happen when you least expect it, I wasn’t even looking for a relationship to begin with, just someone to talk to!

    Also my number one tip, DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT put that you are looking for FUN, boys just get the wrong idea and talk to you expecting stuff from you, then when they do get what they want (usually the things I won’t do) they get bored and just ghost.

  • Another Simple Favour

    I watched this movie a while ago and I would watch it again. First of all the location of the movie was just dreamy and very picturesque, I mean I now want to go on a location tour of Capri due to it.

    The actors were phenomenal, especially Michele Morrone who played Dante. He was the entire reason I watched the second film in the first place! He’s GORGEOUS!! I of course also loved Blake Lively who played Emily, she is still plays the fantastic antihero of the whole movie.

    Since, I have watched the first movie, I again loved the fashion throughout the whole film. Due to the fact I studied fashion, it was honestly a fashion graduates dream film in that sense. I especially liked Emily’s wedding dress.

    I loved the cinematography and the script, again it was as funny as ever, and I loved the dynamic between Emily and Stephanie. I hope they come out with a third movie, as I will be there with my popcorn.

    I loved the sequel and would even say that it’s better than the first movie! Let me know what you think of the movie.

    N x

  • Good Girl Gone Bad

    Why the good girl is not thought of in a sexual context.

    When you think about sex, I bet you think of a promiscuous woman and not the ‘good girl’, who are some of the freakiest people I have personally come across.

    So… I bet you’re wondering what inspired this blog post, well, I have always been open minded and loved talking about intimacy; and while I was watching the ‘Bang Bang’ music video, I thought about writing this post. So thanks to Ariana Grande, Nicki Minaj and Jessie J for this in advance.

    Personally, for me I have always been open with my body and have loved my body and still do. From a young age, I have been open with my parents and if I had to tell them about an intimacy mishap, I hope they’d listen.

    I have always explored my body and have been open with different partners when the time came.

    TMI… but I learnt about masterbation from the age of 18. Myself and my friend from Uni were talking about it like it was the most normal thing in the world. But, the thing that disappoints me is that, in society, females that talk about sex are still ‘slut’ shamed by our society while the men are praised for it!

    I think we should change these stereotypes.

    Anyway, myself and masterbation were a good fit and I haven’t looked back since. I then graduated (haha) to toys, which were a life saving tool, especially when you don’t have a boyfriend/partner.

    Now, I have always prided myself for buying the most expensive lingerie. I live for it. Victoria Secret’s / Boux Avenue, please call me to promote you, but I LOVE IT!

    I love making the guy feel comfortable and making sure what I wear suits their preference.

    Now, this is going to surprise you so much. I USED to write smut on Whattpad. I know, little old me from a private school with only a little bit of sexual experience (which I consumed from watching Fifty Shades of Grey lol). But I did, and the stuff I wrote was WILD!

    The wild stuff I used to write about, has served me well as now I can openly discuss my preferences in the bedroom with guys when the time is right. (Don’t worry mum, I’m not openly doing this to every single guy I talk to).

    But my preferences are indeed freaky, and I love it.

    I think it’s really important as I remember one of my friend’s from my psych (OMG I’m sounding American) class saying how sex should be (or is) included in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Which is true.

    The stuff I choose to do in an intimate setting makes me feel empowered and honestly makes me feel like Ariana Grande in her Dangerous Woman music video.

    But typically ‘good girls’ shouldn’t shame themselves if they like crazy stuff like BDSM/being choked in the bedroom.

    We also shouldn’t think of sex by imagining a dominating woman because that’s just a farce.

    So I hope you liked this post… if you want some more of this type of content, don’t forget to comment.

    N x

  • The Met Gala

    The Met Gala 2025. It happens on the first Monday of May. This brief was just divine and was one of my favourite themes. A$AP Rocky was appointed Chair of the event as well as Lewis Hamilton and other artists, and the theme celebrated ‘Black’ dandyism.

    In layman’s terms dandyism is more of a lifestyle than a concept. It wanes more towards the masculine side of the spectrum, and emphasises someone’s opulence and attention to detail. Moreover, it is focused on the 19th century masculine fashion if we were talking about it from a historical perspective.

    These are my favourite looks, make sure you comment down below and tell me who was your favourite.

    Rihanna

    image credit: Theo Wargo

    Doechii

    image credit: Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Images

    Zendaya

    image credit: John Shearer

    Sabrina Carpenter

    image credit: Jamie McCarthy/Getty Images

    Lisa

    image credit: Dia Dipasupil/Getty Images

    Tracee Ellis Ross

    image credit: Michael Loccisano/GA/Getty Images

    I can’t wait to find out who the chairs are for next year, and what the brief is.

    N x