Why the good girl is not thought of in a sexual context.
When you think about sex, I bet you think of a promiscuous woman and not the ‘good girl’, who are some of the freakiest people I have personally come across.
So… I bet you’re wondering what inspired this blog post, well, I have always been open minded and loved talking about intimacy; and while I was watching the ‘Bang Bang’ music video, I thought about writing this post. So thanks to Ariana Grande, Nicki Minaj and Jessie J for this in advance.
Personally, for me I have always been open with my body and have loved my body and still do. From a young age, I have been open with my parents and if I had to tell them about an intimacy mishap, I hope they’d listen.
I have always explored my body and have been open with different partners when the time came.
TMI… but I learnt about masterbation from the age of 18. Myself and my friend from Uni were talking about it like it was the most normal thing in the world. But, the thing that disappoints me is that, in society, females that talk about sex are still ‘slut’ shamed by our society while the men are praised for it!
I think we should change these stereotypes.
Anyway, myself and masterbation were a good fit and I haven’t looked back since. I then graduated (haha) to toys, which were a life saving tool, especially when you don’t have a boyfriend/partner.
Now, I have always prided myself for buying the most expensive lingerie. I live for it. Victoria Secret’s / Boux Avenue, please call me to promote you, but I LOVE IT!
I love making the guy feel comfortable and making sure what I wear suits their preference.
Now, this is going to surprise you so much. I USED to write smut on Whattpad. I know, little old me from a private school with only a little bit of sexual experience (which I consumed from watching Fifty Shades of Grey lol). But I did, and the stuff I wrote was WILD!
The wild stuff I used to write about, has served me well as now I can openly discuss my preferences in the bedroom with guys when the time is right. (Don’t worry mum, I’m not openly doing this to every single guy I talk to).
But my preferences are indeed freaky, and I love it.
I think it’s really important as I remember one of my friend’s from my psych (OMG I’m sounding American) class saying how sex should be (or is) included in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Which is true.
The stuff I choose to do in an intimate setting makes me feel empowered and honestly makes me feel like Ariana Grande in her Dangerous Woman music video.
But typically ‘good girls’ shouldn’t shame themselves if they like crazy stuff like BDSM/being choked in the bedroom.
We also shouldn’t think of sex by imagining a dominating woman because that’s just a farce.
So I hope you liked this post… if you want some more of this type of content, don’t forget to comment.
N x